A broken heart is an extremely painful experience which can devastate us and tip our world upside down. A broken heart could even be considered worse than a broken bone because a broken bone often only takes several months to heal, whereas the pain from a broken heart can continue for years if left untreated.
A broken heart stirs up strong emotions which often leads to the very unhealthy habit of obsessive thinking. Obsessive thinking takes us away from the present moment and makes us relive the past, over and over again.
So, if you are currently suffering from a broken heart this article aims to give you the cure and a deeper understanding into your current situation.
Mindfulness is a Buddhist practice that asks us to simply become the watcher of our thoughts. It is standing outside of the mind and watching the thoughts roll by, observing and becoming aware of your dominant thoughts and the emotions they bring. If these thoughts are causing you pain then soothe yourself into a better feeling thought. The purpose of mindfulness is predominantly being in the present moment. Being in the present moment when suffering from a broken heart is very important because as previously mentioned, a broken heart often leads to obsessive thinking and keeps us replaying scenarios from the past over and over again. All of our power lies in the present moment and by becoming mindful you are taking back your power.
Meditation is a wonderful tool that everybody should implement into their daily routine, especially when experiencing the symptoms of a broken heart. Meditation allows us to quiet the mind and become present whilst cleansing the body with the breath work required.
Guided meditations on YouTube can be extremely helpful or simply finding a quiet space to focus on your breath for at least 15 minutes per day will really help boost your mood.
Resist the urge to be so judgemental of the situation and simply accept what has been. The Buddhist perspective on break-ups is summed up in the Pema Chodron which states: 'Feel the feelings. Drop the story'.
Broken but open
You may fear opening your heart to another ever again but the true cure to a broken heart is to leave your heart open. Take the lessons the situation brought you and be broken but open. Give as much love as you possibly can to others and make it your priority to show love and kindness to another every single day. Feel the pain and love anyway.
Trust in life even after all the pain. Trust in yourself and trust in others. Give yourself as much time as you need but always trust that the situation will get better.