Updated: Feb 17

Emotional Intelligence

Our thoughts and emotions are what fuel are actions, therefore it is highly beneficial to learn how to develop emotional intelligence and consequently self-awareness if we want to become conscious creators. Unfortunately many of us tend to run from 'painful' or 'bad' emotions and run towards 'good' emotions, sometimes to our own detriment. It is important to note that all emotions are valuable and each serve an extremely important purpose in our overall health and well-being while helping our brain assess situations and ultimately keep us safe.

Learning to develop emotional intelligence is an extremely valuable tool because emotions are what make us human and they affect our work, relationships, life-style, sense of self and our decisions whether big or small.

Furthermore, in reiki we look at emotions and the attached thought patterns as one of the primal causes of blockages to the energy system. If we suppress emotions into the unconscious they can create blockages to our physical, mental and spiritual health therefore it is very important to begin to fully understand your emotions, what they are trying to tell you and to ultimately process them.

Emotional meanings

Below is a list of emotional meanings taken from a Neuroscience article on emotions:

Sadness tries to tell us that something in our situation is not right.

Shame is our moral compass of sorts, but a very complicated emotion that can become deeply harmful if disproportionately attributed to particular situations. Our reaction to shame can either cause us to withdraw from engaging in the activity that resulted in this emotion, or drive us to work harder in order to avoid the feeling the next time around. 

Disgust serves the evolutionary purpose of keeping us safe from microbial harm. Disgust stops us from eating gone-off food, and keeps us at a distance from other things that we deem to be dangerous to us in terms of our health.

Anger tries to change the situation. It is not passive like sadness. Anger is extremely situational in terms of how useful it is.

Fear is experienced when we perceive that, firstly, there is a potential danger and, secondly, that we are relatively powerless over this danger. Fear inspires the fight or flight response. 

Surprise falls on both sides: we all know there are good surprises and bad surprises. When we feel surprise, we don't know what the outcome is, so our brain and body recruits extra energy in order to prepare for what might come to pass. This happens in the form of endorphins flooding the brain, helping us to feel relaxed.

Excitement/joy are centred around pleasure and reward.

Love/trust rely on predictability. These emotions are built up, as we build up a back-catalogue of positive, reinforcing experiences and memories around another person. These emotions also take into account how people like this new person have treated you in the past.

Emotion wheel

The emotion wheel was created to help you pinpoint your specific feelings/emotions so that you can develop self-awareness on how you truly feel about any given situation. Using this wheel on a regular basis can be extremely helpful when trying to heal from a painful situation, simply become more aware of your own emotions and of course to develop emotional intelligence.


Developing self-awareness can be achieved mainly by regularly checking in with yourself, this means becoming aware of how you are feeling at the start of the day, throughout the day and at the end of the day. It is the process of observing our internal state on a regular basis to understand ourselves and our lives better and this can be done in various ways.

Journaling is another way to help you achieve self-awareness and enables you the time to reflect on your day, week or a specific situation or emotion you are dealing with. Getting in the habit of journaling each day can really help in the process of self-development.

Meditation Is a great way to practice self-reflection and to identify what you truly feel about a situation. 15 minutes of meditation per day can help you feel calmer, clearer and ultimately self-aware.

Asking a trusted friend to describe you is an extremely useful way to help you see yourself objectively through the eyes of another who is honest and caring towards you. This process can really help with self-esteem building and objective self-awareness.

Writing down your goals, plans and priorities can help you decipher what is important to you and how you want to live your life. This process can be a great motivator and it is also beneficial to consider how these goals, plans or priorities make you feel to help you truly see what your body feels about your plans.

Taking personality tests can be really useful in understanding who you truly are, what you want out of life and whether you are mainly introverted or extroverted. Take the 16 personalities test now.

For more information on developing emotional intelligence, self awareness or energetic blockages contact us.

Many blessings to you all on your journey of self-discovery!